Feeling Disconnected And Lonely In Your Marriage or Relationship?
- Has your relationship become so disconnected that you don’t even feel like good friends anymore?
- Is your communication so broken that you usually feel misunderstood or worse yet, not even heard?
- Has your connection been torn apart by infidelity?
- Do you miss feeling happy and in love?
- Are you sleeping on the far edge of the bed now? Lying there worried that your relationship is on the brink of falling apart?
- Is the spark of your sex life growing dim?
It’s heartbreaking to be in a marriage or long-term relationship that has become so cold and distant.
That vast disconnection might be the result of years of arguing about the same things over and over. Or it could be the fall-out of avoiding conflict and disagreements to the point that you shut down and barely speak to each other now.
Either way, when it comes to your most important relationship, disconnection hurts like hell!
When you were enjoying the early bliss of new love, it probably never occurred to you that you could end up here. In a place and time where you’re feeling so lonely and unhappy.
You’re probably struggling to find the hope and the “how” to rebuild the connection, fix the communication, and repair the trust between you and your partner.
I can help you discover the hope and show you how to repair your relationship in my Denver marriage counseling office.
Most Couples Experience Bumps In The Road
Just about every couple goes through a rough patch at some point in their relationship.
Facing relationship challenges and dealing with difficult issues (like disconnection and strained communication) is practically unavoidable.
No couple manages to get through the ups and downs of life without stress, pain, or periods of unhappiness.
Sometimes the difficulties and challenges you face in life— like health problems, the loss of a job, the death of a parent, a mid-life crisis, a new baby or an empty nest—can trigger a change in you and in your relationship.
If you and your partner aren’t exactly sure how to manage your emotional reactions to these changes, the stress can drive you apart. Tension, anxiety, and feeling down can lead to breakdowns in communication or seemingly endless arguments.
As I’ve seen in my Denver marriage counseling practice, many couples going through a hard time avoid discussing their thoughts, feelings, concerns, and desires with one another.
Perhaps you’ve avoided talking about touchy subjects with your partner because you want to keep the peace. Unfortunately, this ends up creating loneliness and disconnection. Over time, avoiding difficult conversations shrinks your vulnerability, relationship growth, and your emotional connection.
When vulnerability and meaningful connection go out the window, couples end up feeling like roommates or business partners instead of lovers. Is that how you’re feeling?
Over time, some couples stop putting their relationship first. This results in deep insecurity. And left unchecked, it can have catastrophic consequences for intimate relationships.
Not putting your relationship first can lead to one of you stepping right out of your marriage and into an affair. If this has happened in your relationship you’re experiencing first hand how infidelity shatters trust.
Whether the bumps in the road of your marriage were caused by lack of communication, lack of intimacy (both in and out of the bedroom), or broken trust, I’m glad you’re looking for help. Because it you ignore them, these bumps can lead to a massive relationship wreck!
Even though you’re getting smacked in the face with the reality that intimate relationships are fragile, I want to assure you that there is hope.
The good news is that with the help of a compassionate and skillful therapist that specializes in marriage counseling (me), you can keep your marriage from going completely off the road. You can get back to being warmly connected and communicating like pros.
My Unique Method Of Marriage Counseling Can Help You Reconnect And Save Your Relationship
Let me ask you…
- Are you tired of the terrible communication patterns between you?
- Do you feel like you’ve reached the end of your rope with the distance and tension that has built up?
- Are you sick of the arguments that never get resolved?
- Has your relationship been thrown into chaos by infidelity?
If your relationship has become completely numb or excruciatingly painful, I know how to help you breathe life, happiness, and security back into it.
Even though I have a PhD in marriage therapy, I’m not a stuffy, formal, academic type of marriage counselor. My 20+ years of experience doing couples counseling helps me show up to every session confident, at ease, and full of empathy.
I hope it doesn’t sound arrogant, but I know what I’m doing. I’m a highly skilled marriage counselor.
That’s because I’ve invested in ongoing training with the very best Couples Therapy mentors on the planet. And I’ve kept up to date with the latest developments, techniques, and science in the field.
And unlike most therapists, I’m not a generalist. I don’t do therapy with children, teens, or treat adults for individual issues such as depression, anxiety, addiction, or bipolar disorder.
Because I specialize in marriage counseling, I’m super confident that I can help you and your partner get back to feeling like best friends with a deep, intimate connection.
If you both want a better relationship —with great communication, meaningful connection, rebuilt trust, a renewed sex life, and a foundation built on security — let’s work together and get that done.
As long as you both show up motivated and committed to doing your part, you can experience relationship success.
In our marriage counseling sessions, I’ll teach you how to communicate so that you finally feel heard and understood.
I’ll guide you through new and effective ways of solving the problems you keep struggling with.
You’ll learn new skills for managing your own tension as well as specific ways to help soothe your partner’s distress.
And I’ll help you discover the exact agreements that will protect your relationship for good.
During our couples counseling sessions you’ll learn a proven communication system for common couple challenges like money, chores, parenting, sex, and work-life balance. No more endless arguments.
I’ve developed two unique marriage counseling programs that have saved dozens and dozens of marriages, and can save yours, too. Read here about what some of my past clients have had to say about working with me.
Both of these couples counseling programs are kicked off with a full-day, marriage intensive session (aka: Couples Retreat). And then the follow-up sessions are double the length of typical marriage counseling sessions. We’ll meet for 100 minutes instead of the generic 50-minute therapy session.
What does this mean for you?
You won’t have to stay in marriage counseling for 6 to 9 months to finally rekindle your love, communicate well, and fall in love again.
I specifically developed these programs to help couples get right side up, fast. In just 4 to 8 weeks you can have a solid marriage and feel close again.
You May Have Some Questions About Marriage Counseling
If you’re like most folks considering marriage counseling, you probably have some legitimate concerns and questions rolling around in your mind…
Can marriage counseling work if my spouse is thinking about divorce?
The short answer is Yes!
If your spouse hasn’t served you with divorce papers, then there’s probably a part of them that wants to give your relationship another chance.
See if you can get your partner to agree to come to a one-hour free consultation with me. That’s what I offer couples that are considering working with me.
During that meeting, you’ll both get a feel for how I work with couples on the brink. Then, leave it to me to get your spouse on board and committed to fully showing up for marriage counseling.
Over the years I’ve saved many, many marriages where one spouse was leaning out of the marriage. I can help you, too.
I know we need help, but doesn’t couples counseling take a long time and cost a lot?
I’d like to invite you to think of couples counseling as an investment in yourself and your relationship. You’ll be investing your resources in the short-term (marriage therapy that works fast) for a lifetime of wonderful dividends.
What would it be worth to you if you could finally bring back the closeness, solve your communication problems, stop fighting, become best friends again, rekindle the spark, and heal the wounds of damaged trust?
Wouldn’t it mean the world to you? Isn’t that priceless?
Any investment worth making usually takes time and money. And since your intimate relationship is the most important treasure of your life, it’s definitely worth the investment.
If you’re looking for inexpensive couples counseling, then I’m probably not the therapist for you.
Though I’m not the cheapest marriage counselor in town, I am a highly skilled couples specialist and I’ve designed a relationship breakthrough program that can be done in as little as 4 weeks.
I know that you’re busy and have precious little time to spare. That’s why I developed marriage counseling programs that work fast.
We’ve been to a marriage counselor before and it didn’t help. How are you different?
The thing that sets me apart from most counselors is that I specialize in marriage counseling. I’m not a therapist that treats everybody and every condition.
Having a Doctorate in marriage therapy isn’t the main thing that sets me apart. More importantly it’s that almost every hour of therapy that I do is with couples.
I am passionate about marriage counseling. I love helping couples like you save your relationship. But I don’t want to stop there.
I want to help you have an amazing, rewarding relationship for life. I’ll do everything I can to help you become the happiest couple you know.
Another important thing that makes me different than most other marriage counselors is that I’ve developed and honed a proven couples counseling system that really works. And it works fast.
If you work with me, you won’t have to be in therapy for months on end. We’ll roll up our selves and get your relationship back on track in just a few short weeks.
If you don’t live nearby, consider coming to one of my Couples Retreats in Denver.
I can help you reconnect, save your marriage, and thrive
Don’t wait another day to get your relationship back on track. Give me a call at (303) 233-4278 to set up your free initial marriage counseling consultation.